For parents of first-graders. Notice to parents of first-graders
The first class of the school - one of the most important critical periods in the life of children, and adaptation in the first grade - a special and difficult period in a child's life. Changed the entire way of life, Now the child has to go every day to school, systematically and busy, observe the regime of the day, subject to various rules and regulations of school life, fulfill the requirements of the teacher, engaged in the lesson so, as determined by the school curriculum, diligently homework, achieve good results in the classroom. Changes and social environment, appear classmates, teachers, and the school as a large social group makes new rules and responsibilities, which sometimes run counter to the immediate desires and impulses. These standards need to adapt and most of the students of the first classes quite successfully cope with this problem, but, nonetheless, Parents should keep in mind, that the start of school for each child is a major stress.
His new position the child is not always well aware of the, but be sure it feels and experiences: He is proud, that became an adult, he likes his new position. The experience of the child of his new social status is associated with the appearance of "internal position schoolboy". The presence of "internal position pupil" has a great value for a first grader. That it helps young students to overcome the vicissitudes of school life, perform the new duties. In keeping with the first-grader "internal position schoolboy" invaluable role belongs to the parents. They are serious about the school life of the child, attention to its successes and failures, patience, mandatory promotion efforts and the efforts of, emotional support to help first graders feel the importance of their activities, contribute to the child's self-esteem, his self-confidence.
Psychological support for the child during the school by the parents - and most important problem. By the process of learning in the school must be prepared as a first-grade, and their parents. The main concern of the parents - to maintain and develop interest in learning new things, contribute to the creation of situations of success for their child in the process of learning new skills, skills and knowledge.
Your participation and your interest will positively affect the development of cognitive abilities of the child. And these skills you will also be able to gently guide and strengthen further. Hold back and do not abuse the school and teachers in the presence of a child. Leveling their role does not allow him to experience the joy of learning.
Do not compare the child with classmates, as if they were you pretty or vice versa. You love this child, he is, and take such, he is, therefore respect his individuality.
Be consistent in their demands. If the aim, for example, child to grow up independent, do not be quick to offer him help, give it time, maybe, even survive any mistake.
With an understanding about the fact, that your baby has something does not work right away, even if this seems elementary. Please be patient. Remember, that statements like: "Well,, how many times do I have to repeat? When you, at last, learn? What are you so sad sack?"- But irritation on both sides, did not cause. Well, if the child is in a difficult first year of study will feel the support. Your faith in the success of, calm, equanimity to help your child cope with all the difficulties.
Meet the child after school safely, not raining down on him a thousand questions, Give relax. If a child is overly excited, if he is thirsty Share, not dismiss, do not wait for later, Hear, it does not take much time;
If you see a, that the child is upset, but is silent, do not try to find out, let rest, and then he will tell all;
You can not ever (even in the hearts of) tell the child, he is worse than the other.
You should try to honestly and patiently answer any questions a child.
Try to find time each day, to be alone with your child. At this point, it is most important concerns, joy and failures;
Teach your child's free and easy to communicate not only with their peers, but also with adults.
Do not hesitate to emphasize, that you are proud of him.
Be honest in your assessment of her feelings for the child.
Always tell your child the truth, even when it is not profitable to you.
Evaluate the only actions, rather than the child.
Do not succeed by force. Coercion is the worst case of moral education. Coercion in the family creates an atmosphere of destruction of the child.
Develop a common tactic of communication of all adults in the family with a child, their differences on the pedagogical tactics decide without. If something does not work, consult with the teacher, psychologist, doctor, read books for parents;
Recognize the right of rebenka oshibki. Learn constructively relate to errors and failures, explain, that not only he is mistaken, who does nothing. Criticisms can deprive a child of self-confidence, and this will impact on all of his attitudes toward learning.
Think of the children "bank" happy memories. In no case did not say good-bye "warning": "Look, do not fool around! Today was not so bad marks!"Wish him luck, cheer, find a few kind words - he has a busy day ahead;
The child takes itself so, refer to it as adults. Though sometimes put themselves in the place of his child, and then it will be clearer, how to deal with it.
Remember, that during the year there are critical periods, when learning more difficult, fatigue sets in more quickly, reduced working capacity. This is the first 4-6 weeks for first-graders, end of the second quarter, The first week after winter break, middle of the third quarter. During these periods, should be particularly attentive to the child's condition. Be attentive to the child's complaints of headache, fatigue, disrepair;
Note, that even very big kids (We often talk 7-8 year old child) love bedtime story, song and affectionate pats. All it calms them, helps to relieve the stress, quietly to sleep. Try not to remember before going to sleep troubles, do not sort things out. Make sure that, the child went to bed early. For this age is the best time of going to sleep 21:00 — 21:30.
More than anything in the first year of study your baby needs support. It not only forms their relationship with classmates and teachers, but for the first time realizes, with himself that someone wants to be friends, and someone - no. It was at this time the baby develops its own view of themselves. And if you want to, that from it grew calm, and confident person, necessarily praise him. Maintain, not mocked for couples and gryazy in tetrads. All this is minor compared to the, that of the endless accusations and punishments your child will lose confidence in themselves.