Craze children playing computer games and worried parents, and doctors, and teachers. The child stops eating, drink and talk – he did not before, he's not all monsters are killed. Why is this happening and how “drag” teen on the monitor screen?
Чтобы понять, than the computer so attractive children, should start with yourself. Exhausted by the constant put food on their, we are simply unable to pay attention to his son or daughter, but it is more necessary this very bread. Without waiting for communicating with real people, child refers to a living organism with respect to, which compares favorably with the parents, that is always ready “make the company”.
Speed, which takes place this knowledge, greatly exceeds the rate of assimilation, let us say, rules of Russian language, and computer games with seemingly innocuous names “Heroes” and “Conquest of the Americas” triumphal entry into the life of your offspring. If suddenly you find on the desk also “School Course of Informatics”, do not hurry to rejoice: shabby look of the textbook says, he, likely, used as a stand for hot tea.
Perhaps, one of the parents entertains the hope, that, made friends with a computer, in the future child will become a genius programmer. In vain: not all young talents can voluntarily give up in favor of entertainment activities, even at the computer.
Lord of the world
Computer games give the child the opportunity to be the, whom he can not yet be in life: leading and guiding force of any event. He grows significantly in their own eyes, because it is not just about the participation in the game action, but the full control.
Then, the process will happen next, depends solely on the desire to press the buttons. The game becomes a counterweight to real life, in which the child is little independent. As a psychological relief similar role reversal is necessary for any person, regardless of age.
Moreover, quality graphics gives the child a sense of reality, a wholly-owned. But some of the rules of the computer game, eg immediate resolution of any issues by gunfire, may give rise to a child's idea, that this pattern of behavior is applicable in life.
Of course, the degree of susceptibility and psychological stability of all children are different, but parents still makes sense to at least occasionally interested in the content of the games. The most difficult thing in this case – dedication to listen to the story until the end. But then you will be rightly proud of the amazing rapport with teenagers, elegantly inserting into a conversation with them words like warcraft and counter-strike.
Useless to fight
In fact, from this passion of our children, we can not escape. The computer came into our lives and remain in it, whether we like it or not. Bad weather, rain and sleet also did not give us much joy, However, we take an umbrella and walk to the street. The conclusion: useless to fight, but the need to control.
Single mom, exhausted reserves of arguments, I began to take the mouse with you to work. It's not the best way out, because the child can always go to a friend, whose parents are not capable of such radical measures.
Try to give a son or daughter of any feasible set of instructions for him, eg housework, by doing that he is with a clear conscience (if you are sure it is available) can sit down for a game. If you have a living grandmother, it will control the process during the week.
But not rely on consciousness and initially, acquiring computer, do not skimp on a good monitor: vision problems will cost more. Teach your child to charging for the eyes, such as squinting and rotating the first pupils in different directions, and then up and down. And charging for the back – after sitting posture, in which the child resides hours, It is “aggravating circumstance”.
Learn basic, for example, exercise “angry cat”: on all fours, lower the head, while rounding your back, remain so for 5-10 секунд, then slowly lift your head and gently flex your back. Repeat, until you get bored, but not less 5-6 time.
Podzatыlьnik or other horoshiй
Now imagine, that the most difficult task we have fulfilled – for a while the child torn from the screen. It is necessary to consider, what we can offer in return the child. Let's face: good free sports sections is almost gone.
Can, street? But that street, which we let go with peace of mind parents, no more. She and “the good old days” bore little resemblance to the Institute for Noble Maidens, today has become more violent and even deadly – not in a figurative, but in the literal sense of the word.
Not surprising, Many of us prefer, the children spent more time at home: Better to let the child sit at the computer, than hanging around on gates. Full circle?
Another mother decided to get first-hand information: I asked the son of his fifteen, that in addition to the end of the world is able to tear him away from communion with monsters. The question took the child by surprise, and he stated, that he should think. But the father, supporter of patriarchal methods of education, immediately replied: “Podzatыlьnik”.
The thought of the possibility of the use of brute force angered son, but accelerated thought process. “Study and better things “, – he mumbled, potupyvshys. It remained only to shed tears with emotion! But, judging by the frightening estimates Blog, Training is no longer a priority.
Parents demanded the truth, no matter how bitter it may be. It would be better if they did not – alternative computer turned motorcycle! That evening, the son approached with words: “Мама, I know, which can replace the computer – good friends!” Surely, This is indeed the best option…
Slice the carrot does not hurt
Call the child to confidential conversation. Do not press down on it – he will act out of spite. It is better to help him realize, that everything has reasonable limits, that you did not forbid him to engage in the, what does he like, and just want to, that he did not just that. tell him, that you are happy, he has a passion for (even if it's actually not the case), but because in the world there are many fascinating things.
Can, You grope together and realize the interests of the, what your child likes. For example, in conversation with 14-year-old Nikita revealed, that the boy wants to deal in cars, which surprised his father – experienced motorist: He did not seem to notice his son a great love for the art. But parents listened, and since then in his father's garage Nikita spends time at least, than monitoromNameknite child, that the final decision, course, She left him and you
no doubt about the correctness of his choice. Slice the carrot has not hurt anyone, a whip in his life, and so is more than enough.
“save our souls!”
However, the devil is not so bad, As ego malyuyut. Computer boom in something similar to chickenpox, which almost all of us had been ill in his childhood. Enjoy this, of course, there was little, but no one has yet managed to change the natural course of events. However, in our power to do so, that the disease was uneventful. And, anyway, it will take time and patience, which we are constantly lacking.
Let each of the parents will make their choice. We so often want, to surround me (and how easy it is to put ultimatums children!), and much less willing to change ourselves. We kept to himself, and we can find a thousand excuses for it. But none of the hardships of life are not a justification for our transformation into a machine for making money. And in that, that the best companion of many children, too, began to machine, there's our fault. Because the computer issue is part of the problem “fathers and children”.
All of us should ponder, why more and more children prefer virtual reality and reality is replaced by a non-contact live chat. Может быть, потому, that the child is afraid of being rejected and misunderstood, and virtual contact becomes a unique opportunity not to be lonely? Are we able to create a real alternative “beznaprяgovoй” emotionless and communication?
Completely, unless we treat the shortcomings of the child as a condescending, as his own, and perceive it so, he is. We, parents, forgot, that they themselves may well be partners in the games, and visual teaching aids. More precisely, a practical guide on the subject, entitled “Жизнь”.